Reflections & Ramblings: Volume Two

Reflections & Ramblings: Volume Two

I.

Sarah works nights as a labor and delivery nurse. Sometimes the schedule works out so she works four nights in a row. This weekend has been one of those times. She’s worked Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and tonight. All twelve hour shifts.

On top of that she worked the end of a call shift on Wednesday. So technically she’s worked five days in a row now. That’s really tough to do. And it makes things tough here at home, too.

When Sarah works, she gets home in the morning around 8:00 am or so, then she nurses Ezra and heads straight to bed. We see her for maybe 15 minutes or so. And when she gets up around 5:00 pm we eat dinner around 5:30, and she’s out the door around 6:10 or so. That means that I watch the kids almost every moment of the day. When Sarah works those multiple days in a row, it leads to exhaustion for both of us in different ways.

It can be pretty isolating. Just me, the boys, and now the puppy. When I’m having to watch them like that I basically have no time to do any kind of housework. And so after four days in a row of watching the kids without being able to get any housework done, the place kind of, well, it gets out of hand pretty quickly.

As an introvert who also likes to have things organized and ordered, well, I can be sort of an anxious wreck after those four days or so. I need some me time and I need it badly. And the house is a total wreck, desperately needing to be cleaned and organized.

So I’ve learned to take advantage of this pattern and ritualize it.

II.

After a few days of work, Sarah is ready to just relax a bit at the house. And by the time she’s ready to stay at home with the kids, I’m pining for some alone time. So we have established the pattern where she stays and watches the kids in the basement while I escape to the kitchen to do dishes, scrub pots and pans, and clean up four days of trash, crumbs, and toys leftover by two amazingly messy kids.

These times of doing chores and cleaning have become precious to me. They are the times where I am able to be productive, but also can kind of switch off for a while and not have to worry about the kids or the puppy. I pop in some earbuds, turn on my favorite podcasts, take a deep breath and just enjoy the time to myself.

These times have become one of the many rituals I now perform on a regular basis in my home.

I call them rituals because I have become very ordered in how I do things, and I have let it be a time of quiet reflection. I listen to sermons, TED Talks, and podcasts that help expand my mind, my worldview, and my faith.

Turning chores into rituals brings greater purpose to the mundane tedious tasks of day or week and helps push me to grow as a person, husband, friend, father, and Christian.

It’s also just a chance to hear great storytelling, which is probably one of my greatest loves.

I do plan on writing more about turning household tasks and chores into rituals as it’s own blog post at a future date. I still haven’t gathered all my thoughts yet.

III.

We got our puppy on New Years Eve. So we’ve had her now for a little over two weeks. I can’t believe how quickly I’ve warmed up to her. For as long as I can remember, a belief that I have always had about myself is that I am NOT a dog person. There’s nothing that has ever appealed to me about dogs. Cats I’ve liked. Dogs? Never.

Missy and the Boys

But in the matter of two weeks I have been completely smitten by our little Schnauzer. It’s the strangest thing for me to come to grips with. I love our little Missy. I feel like she’s already an essential part of our little family.

Micah and Ezra love playing with her. They giggle like crazy despite the fact they don’t really know how to play with her. It’s mostly them running away from her and laughing hysterically as she chases them down running circles around them. Micah finally has met someone that can outrun and out dart him.

Missy and Ezra

She’s still a bit nippy with Ezra and sometimes Micah too. But we’re teaching her not to do that. She’s starting to get the hang of things though. She hasn’t had an accident in the house for a few days now, and I’m hoping she’s starting to understand that indoors is not where you go potty.

IV.

The kids love to play like they are dogs. They crawl around panting like dogs, tongues out of their mouths. They did this before we got Missy, but now that she’s around they do it all the time. Micah knows that we are trying to train Missy to go potty outside. And he saw her fail to do so a couple times right after we first got her.

While I was playing with Missy one day within the past couple weeks, Micah got on all fours and starting playing like he was a dog, too. It was cute, and he was having fun mimicking the dog. But then, out of nowhere he stood up, pulled down his pants, and peed on the floor. He thought he was being like Missy. And he thought it was funny.

It was not funny.

So, great. I trained the dog to go outside, and Micah reverted to peeing on the floor. *facepalm*

V.

Also, training a dog to go potty outside when it’s -20 degrees outside.

Not ideal.

VI.

Ok. Enough potty talk.

I had a good weekend of basically doing nothing productive. I watched the NFL playoffs today and yesterday while trying to also watch the kids. That Green Bay-Arizona game was nuts. So fun. I hope Arizona goes to the Super Bowl. They are such a fun team. And although I would love for Peyton Manning to end his career with a Super Bowl ring, I just don’t think they’re going to beat New England next week. It does still feel poetic though to have the AFC Championship game be Brady v. Manning. But I have a feeling how it’s going to go. (Not well for Manning).

Also, tonight I watched the Democratic debate. Two of my best friends and I pretty much talk about politics every day. And when it comes to these debates we usually live chat with each other during them. We’ve known each other since second grade, and over the years we’ve forged a unique sense of humor together. We can get carried away pretty quickly. And usually the jokes we end up with are so farfetched or have trailed on so long that they would never really make any sense to anyone else.

But that’s ok. I love our humor, and I would never trade it for the world.

Anyway. This is our summary of the debate:

rilo kiley take 2

This makes no sense to you. And that’s ok. But since I am ultimately writing this blog for myself, it doesn’t have to make sense to you.

But trust me. It’s funny.

Please spread the word.

 

 

So we got a puppy

So we got a puppy

I’ve never been a dog person. I don’t like how they smell. I don’t like how they bark. I don’t like how they generally need walks. The list could go on and on.

About a year ago my family moved from Chicago, Illinois to Omaha, Nebraska. We were moving closer to family and we were about to be living in a house instead of an apartment. My sons Micah and Ezra were bouncing off the walls while we were temporarily staying at Grandma’s house. Seeing their energy and their playfulness, Sarah and I briefly thought about the idea of getting a dog for the boys once we moved into a house. But we ended up recognizing that we were already experiencing a lot of transition, and right then probably wasn’t the best time to do such a thing. Plus, there was the fact that I don’t like dogs.

There's nothing in this world that Micah seems to love more than dogs and puppies. Every commercial on TV that has a dog in it (there's a lot, it turns out) Micah starts dancing around the room excitedly pointing at the dog on the TV. If we pass a dog whe

We’ve now lived in a house in Omaha for just under a year. And in that time Micah and Ezra’s love for animals has become quite apparent. They especially love dogs. In fact, they love dogs so much that I decided to take them out on separate occasions to Toys R Us to by them stuffed animal dogs. This only increased their love for dogs. This past October, they were dogs for halloween. Any time a commercial comes on TV featuring a dog, they point it out and run around panting like dogs. When we were playing outside this summer and fall, anytime a dog would pass by with their owner they had to go run and pet the dog. It was becoming more and more evident that getting a dog for these two kids would be a life-changing thing. And they deserved one.

Puppies for Halloween

Just under a week ago my wife Sarah and I got a puppy – a 4 month old Miniature Schnauzer.

Ok. Here she is. Good dog! // #missytheschnauzer #aksarbenliving #schnauzersofinstagram #schnauzerlife #puppygram

Before we got our puppy, we had been looking at all sorts of dogs in the area. We knew we wanted a smaller size dog, one that had a lot of energy but wouldn’t be destructive, and would also be willing to be a lap dog. We also wanted to make sure that the dog was big enough not to be injured by the kids’ roughhousing.

We thought maybe a Dachshund or a Corgi would be nice. But we ended up considering all sorts of dogs. We contacted shelters as far as 6 hours away from our home inquiring about specific dogs. We filled out applications, listed references, and explained why we thought we would be good dog owners.

But after failed attempt after failed attempt, and after some strange phone calls with some people in charge of some pet rescue, we decided to go ahead and head over to a kennel near our house. They had quite a number of puppies to look at, and Sarah suggested we go with the understanding of seeing how the kids react to the puppies there.

I knew that deciding to go to the kennel would be deciding to purchase a puppy. And, well, that’s exactly what happened.

We played with a King Charles Terrier / Spaniel mix, a Wire Haired Terrier, and a Miniature Schnauzer. The guy at the kennel had grown up with Schnauzers, so he was partial to the one we had been playing with and he really sold her and her breed well. Obviously.

Missy the Schnauzer

It was hard because we definitely set out to adopt a puppy. We understand the need. It was just much harder than we had anticipated. We were going to need to have our house inspected, our back yard inspected, and then have our references grilled about us and our house. All things we were willing to have done, but the dogs we had picked out that we liked got adopted quickly. Perhaps we could have been more patient and more willing to wait for a rescue dog, but we did make sure that the kennel we purchased our puppy from gets their puppies from breeders and families that treat their dogs ethically. Ultimately, it is what it is. We have a puppy and we believe we have brought her into a home that will give her the love and care she deserves. I know some people will be disappointed in us for not adopting, and all I can say is that I am sorry. But we have a dog that is a perfect fit for our family.

It’s hard to believe we have a puppy. Because my wife works night shift and I’m a stay-at-home dad, I’m the one who primarily takes care of the puppy. That was a bit of a challenge at first because I literally knew nothing about dog care one week ago. Since that time I have read every crazy dog owner blogging about proper care of a puppy and how to train one to go potty outside. It’s been quite a learning experience.

My mom recently visited and just stood in astonishment as she saw me holding and playing with our new puppy. It’s just something she never imagined that she would ever see.

She didn’t come with a name, and so we needed to name her. We had a friend at our home church in Indianapolis named Bryan that had an incredible lap dog named Missy. He used an electric wheelchair to get around and often hung out at the mall with his little dog. And more often than not, conversations were started because of Missy. She helped him make friends and talk with all sorts of people every day.

Bryan died a few years ago. And anytime I’ve gone back home I’ve really missed our chats before and after church. So when Sarah and I were thinking through possible female dog names Missy was one of the first that came up. And the name just seemed to instantly fit with our new puppy.

Meet Missy, the new addition to our family. I'm sure you'll be seeing plenty of her this upcoming year. Happy New Year! //#missytheschnauzer (I'm totally hijacking this hashtag, btw) #aksarbenliving #schnauzerlife

So now when I play with her and I hear myself say in a very sing-songy voice “Hey Missy! Hey girl! Good girl! You’re a good girl, Missy!” I can hardly believe my ears. Is that really coming from me? Yep. This little puppy has won me over in less than a week.

And to see her play with the boys has been such a treat. It’s so clear that humans and dogs really have a connection. It’s like they already understand each other.

For example, my youngest son Ezra, who is a little over 1.5 years old, fell down and started crying about something. Missy came running over to him, licked him on the face once, and Ezra instantly started laughing. What a cool thing.

So yep. We have a puppy now. And I’m very happy.  We all are. 🐶